Sex with the Ex: How could the last time have been better?
The relationship is on the rocks. As one half of said relationship you know that it won’t last much longer. What should you do to prepare for the end? The answer is simple, you make sure that every angry, expected, and sometimes needed sexual encounter in the months to weeks to days leading up to the end is spectacular. You could spend your time getting your affairs in order like dividing up who gets the Netflix and or Hulu passwords, but those things can be replaced. I think that focusing on the pleasure you can provide in the bedroom is the best end to a tumultuous relationship. Why? After the honeymoon phase comes the slump, yet if you stick in it for the long haul sex becomes a crucial factor in the development of a lasting marriage. Some would say the companionship and empathy provided is the real heart of any union however brief it exists. Don’t be fooled by the Valentine’s cards, sex is the true star of any relationship.
When you take a good look in the mirror and ask yourself did I put in work last night? Anyone who has ever experienced a breakup will tell you that the split is uneven. If you both agree to split it is rarely due to the same problem. When that split happens you want to make sure that the orgasms provided during your time with this person are both memorable and lasting. The other person should think of you when their back begins to sweat and their toes begin to curl. I can honestly say my last time with my ex was lackluster at best. No one really knows which one is going to be the last one, so unconsciously we mull through the moments thinking it will happen again soon. Then we wake up only to realize it is all over. The relationship was horrible, the memories are now tainted and the sex left a bad taste in your mouth.
How can you ensure that the last time you have sex with you ex is the absolute best? First, if it helps pretend like this almost-no-longer-your-significant-other is the person you first fell in love with. Think about the person under or on top of you without all the time in between. Every hot and heavy session between the sheets should seem like a new adventure of discovery. Second, in the bedroom try not to reference anything from the past, present, or future. You want to keep that time preserved in stone. Long after the split, each of you should associate that time with magic and unicorns, because those things are truly unreal to see and touch. The third and most vital thing you need to do to ensure that your lasting booty call is the pinnacle of the relationship, end it right after your best performance. Wait, before you light the torches and grab the pitchforks hear me out. When you know for sure that nothing good can become of spending more time with a person it is time to ram that point home. All puns are intended. If you are an adult, which some may still be confused about that fact, it is imperative that someone say, “This thing we had is over and done.” Knowing that you put everything into the pleasure side of the past relationship can open a you up to work harder in the areas that you fell short in. Yes, the sex is great, but what about my communication skills outside the bedroom. Yes, we both got off, but could I support their career goals more. We all have a lot to think about and most importantly a lot of stretches to do. Now that you have all the tools to end it on a high note, will you make the most of each and every time in the throws of passion?
